Failure is the Stepping Stone For Success PART-5- Its not over yet

Hi friends..


So finally I have decided to fast forward the life story.. So this is me writing the last part.. the 5th one

Make sure you have read my all parts before u read this last one

Failure is the Stepping Stone For Success PART-1- The day before the silence on

http://ajourneytopast.blogspot.com/2009/03/failure-is-stepping-stone-for-success_13.html

Failure is the Stepping Stone For Success PART-2- The unsaid

http://ajourneytopast.blogspot.com/2009/03/failure-is-stepping-stone-for-success_14.html

Failure is the Stepping Stone For Success PART-3- The True Friends

http://ajourneytopast.blogspot.com/2009/03/failure-is-stepping-stone-for-success_15.html

Failure is the Stepping Stone For Success PART-4- The Second Life

http://ajourneytopast.blogspot.com/2009/03/failure-is-stepping-stone-for-success_7974.html

This is the last one.


It was big turn in my friends life after the result of first BDS, He managed to make a new name in his dream college.. years after years, he has managed to learn a lot many things no matter how the life has treated him. Getting 76% 1st BDS ,70% at 2nd BDS,69% at 3rd , 68% at final year.. finishing the BDS overall 4th rank and and a distinction three first class .. Happy with the how the life has taken him from the worst to best..

Ok.. lets stop here. This this not end of the story.

The big event of life was still pending. He too had a dream of getting a MDS like all of us, but the of time given for entrance , the amount of money spent for the books, the immense pressure to get a seat in first attempt , made this CET entrance exams for post graduation the toughest.. and hopefully this was the last chance to prove that he was not the same anymore.

So we both started reading for entrance ,sitting in the college lib for last one year, traveled from the time of confusion over the way we need to prepare for entrance and till the result day..

I am sure, those who have read till this blog might be wondering who exactly is the one who traveled this far.

The wait is over friends

Its the same who once had failed in PUC-1st and managed to reach this far

Its the same who once met 6 new best pals in PUC-2 and even after 7 years they are still the together,

Its the same Who once had feared about passing the BDS and who managed to pass with a flying colours

Its the same who had a dream of getting an MDS and worked for it for one long year

Its the same who was once called as repeater and today remembered as topper

Its the same who once thought that his brother as challenge to him, and today he is glad that he has one, the one who made him to realize that anything can be achieved, the one who had believed in him the most

Its the same who today got 6th rank to state in his post graduate entrance exam

Its me..

Its Dr.Suresh Shenvi :)

And as u all know

--------Failure is the Stepping Stone For Success-------

Failure is the Stepping Stone For Success PART-4- Second Life

In my Last blog we saw how my friend cleared PUC- 2 with respectable marks. Lets sail through the next..

Getting good PUC marks did not help him much. His performance in the CET was not that good on that day. Why? Its the same.. PUC 1st the biggest problem this time too..Anyway ,life had given him 6 new best pals, A new identity, and lots of luck.

Although he did not get BDS seat.. but managed to get a seat in an BAMS degree college. Was happy as one of his best pal from that best friends group got the seat in same college too..

One thing which made him to hope for a bit of luck was the amount of building fund which the BAMS college asked from him..

I wondered why he has too pay the same fee as BDS and he even wont even 10% of life what he had dreamed of..

So it was 2nd round of CET counselling. Before going to Bangalore he went to his best pal and told him that he will be leaving that earlier seat.. May be it was bit depressing for his pal as he wont be able to be with him in that college anymore.

Went to the counselling, luck gave him a big gift on that day.. a single seat of BDS in the same college which he had always dreamed of.. It was just for that single seat he travelled a long way to Bangalore again although even after knowing that there r still around 2000 students in front of him..

Now how can he get a seat when there are already 2000 students ahead?? I asked the same too.. But for the better part..The seat was reserved for those who have read in a Kannada medium for 10 years.. [:)].. It was GM-K Seat.. I guess reading in a Kannada medium was not that bad[;)]

Anyway it was like a milestone in his life and he still thanks god for it..

He went to the new dream college , got the admission for the 1st bds.But getting just an admission wont change u r life.. isn't it

He has just thought about the fun which he gonna have if he gets that seat, but whose gonna think about that 4 years of nonstop study?

He brought the Anatomy book on the 1st day of college. Opened it. Those new words of muscles, bones. My god.He had cried on that day, the syllabus was well above his intelligence.

There is no retuning now. The family members have trusted on him,giving a fee of 35k per year to a person who once failed , was like gambling.. and the bad thing, u cant even leave the course in between. It was too late.He was in the middle of sea now.

It was the first day of college. He did not even understood a single word of that big one hour bio chem lecture. It was the Anatomy dissection class in the afternoon.. Many of friends were already knowing that he had a brother who is topper in the medical college.. So my friends name was already pre-programmed as Intelligent.. HA HA..People once named him as Repeater... God is great..But the real past was never been explored by anyone from them.. So he thought its better to keep bad memories apart..

There were two girls who wanted to know the name of the book need to be read for physiology..Poor fellow.. He was really bad in English that time.. He was not able to complete the 1st English line which he had ever spoken..[;)].. never mind.. happens with all.. So he managed the things KANNADA LATER

It was his brother who had become a big challenge for his life.. His professors expected the same from the from him too.. It quite difficult right.. how can a guy who had failed in PUC-1st can top like his brother, and that getting a distinction like his brother was well beyond his imagination..

As time passed by. He had his 1st internal exam. The best part, he was the one who topped in that exam.Told this to mom. she expects him to think about final exam as that will be the one which is important for passing.Yup that's right too.

Anyway days passed by. He was improving in studies, but the fear of failure was building in. what if he fails again in 1st bds.. he remembered the day when he had brought the anatomy book and had cried on his decision of taking BDS..

His final exam dates was announced.. Although he had topped in 2 out of 3 subjects in prelims but it was the that one word 'PASS" which he wanted too see in that final exam of 1st BDS..

I dont know about ENGG.. But I too have experienced the amount of stress we need to undergo during those continues exam shedule..

It was the 1st day of exam.. Paper without any options was bit different from ususal...

It was the Physiology on the first day and the Anatomy, giving continues exam for the first time, he was totally exusted,just 2 hours of sleep for the day, that's what what made the third exam Dental materials a big fear.. It was the night 3 o clock when he told his mom that he wont be performing well in the the third exam and might fail in exam too.

Mom somehow consoled him, told him that not to worry about result.. Gave him some exampls of big achievers, told him not too loose hope in the middle of the race.. This is what made him to realise the importance of mother in the life of an individual.

He read whole portion again in that final 6 hours from morning 3-8 am

Reached college.. sweating at morning 7 was bit difficult to explain. It was the last exam. Got the question paper..Some how managed to write everything.
It was shocking to see his brother and father in the college after exam. waiting for him, worrying about his exam

Anyway. He was still not confident about passing. He must have calculated the marks about 10-25 exams in that gap of 15 days before the exam..Wishing god to pass him. Can u believ, a guy who just topped in prelims, thinks of getting a pass class in the final exam, I have seen him on those day. He looked horrible.

It was the result day when life was not the same..

How many of u really think he will pass in exam? after all that happened in that past 2 years..

I too never believed when I saw his result.. He had beaten the everybodies expectation.

He was the Distinction holder at that moment.. Got 76%.. It was after 3 years when someone had got a distinction in that college.. Altough he stood 2nd to the class.

Never mind.. Forget the distinction..

The best of that one year .. He was the one who topped in Anatomy. the subject which he had the feared the most and he still says.. that was the best paper he had ever written [:)]

Hmm. story is not yet over dear.. the big one yet to come[:)]

Keep reading

Failure is the Stepping Stone For Success PART-3.. TRUE FRIENDS

First of all let me thank you for reading the Part-1 and Part-2. In my last blog I mentioned about my friends result when he gave a second attempt and this time he somehow cleared. So let us sail through .

There is no return from whats called failure... Its like, a stain left by an ink and no matter how much you try to wash it.. it still leaves a mark

This is how my friend replied to me when i asked him about his days after clearing puc 1st year in the second attempt..

It was a new life, This time he was entering the college with a new identity.. A REPEATER.. I guess it not that easy to sit beside your juniors,, why? .. you have that constant fear, what if they come to know that you r a senior who just passed in the exam..

People hate those who fail.. no matter what the subject be ,,. May be life gave bit more time adjust. I guess he did not loo that old when compaired to his new batchmates.

But there was still one unanswered question.. people started wondering where did he do his Puc-1st year.. I guess there is always a way to escape things.. this time he found a new way,, He told them that he did his PUC-1st in some other college and got the admission in this college for 2nd puc.. May be this idea was not that bad..

Although his new bathcmates did not catch the lie,, but u cant really hide from the teachers right.. They have seen him before. It was a good day , a class of maths,, the teacher came near the desk, his batchmats were shocked to see how the teacher talked to him so gently.. i guess that made the picture clear..

But time heals everything.. Isn't it?? .. Now it was the time to apply for a tution classes.. This time my friend choose to go to new teachers , as he was sure that his old teacher wont give him a seat in their classes.. but sometimes life does not go as we all think.. It was reverse this time, the new teachers denied from giving an admission to their tuition.. so he decided to meet his old teachers, and guess what, he was Wrong.. they gave him a admission with a smile.. so he still wonders how did they agree to give him a seat..

It was the first day of the tution,travelling 3 KM on cycle at morning 6, entering hall thinking about the past, decided to sit at the last bench.. it used to be crowded there.. this was the best place so that nobody can find the failure..

Maths in the morning.. Chemistry in evening.

Let me ask u one thing.. will u ask a failure to be your friend at the first day of tuition.. will you invite him for a dinner in night.. Believe me,if i would have met him at puc-2 I would have never wished to.. but it was the 1st bds when I met this friend mine..

It was that day when he met 6 new friends who asked him to join them at dinner.. and I guess he still wonders why they did it.. now u might be thinking how did they come to know about my friends past.. ok.. One of the friend from that group had a brother who was studying MBBS with my friends bro.. so he knows complete in and out.

Anyway.. he joined them in the eve,, had a great time.As time passed by.. they became good pals.. but they never asked the big question?? why did he fail?? he still wonders?

Playing sports, walking in the college campus, roaming on the road at night 11, having the best days of life, this clearly indicates that he was enjoying his best days of life. Sitting on the first bench had become a craze for him, even started trying to solve maths ealier than his good friend who was a champ once, reaching the tution hall as early as possible, reserving chairs for his new best pals, racing with them to reach the another location, sharing vada pav, having fun in the tution, laughing at the smallest thing,discussing the serious topic, I guess he misses them. I sometimes wonder, failing in exam in not bad as it looks[;)]

PUC-2 is like a gateway for the bright future. It was the time of supreme court judgment, passing its judgment on the whats called COMED made getting admission costlier.. the fees was almost doubled..

Anyway sticking to the topic, the exam was approaching.. this time although the boy was serious about studies but he never felt the fear of failure .. may be because he was having those 6 toppers with him.

Few day before exam he met his tuition teachers alonne.. but it was depressing to find that his teachers really dont believe in his work.. they reminded him about the past failure..

Told u,., failure is like a stain..

Anyway it was the main exam.. these 6 met in front of college.. but surprisingly they all were so relaxed.. I guess this is what differentiats the confidence.

Sitting in the exam hall.. receiving the question paper ,,asking for the supplements definitely shows that my friend must have done the exam really well.

Anyway.. the exams got over. Without a doubt, they all had done well.. but how can u expect a guy who failed in PUC-1 to do well good in PUC-2 .. isn't it?

He knows getting a pass class wont help in much future.. so he need to get something good from it..

It was the CET which was also imp.. And as you all know.. If u want to get through CET u need to have both the knowledge from PUC-1 AND PUC-2.. so this is what he was wondering ..

Ok..Stop..This is where my college and me come in to the picture..

My friend gave the CET exam right in front of our BDS college.. When he came out of the exam hall. He just asked one thing from god.. " God.. if you want me to give something, then give me seat in this college"

And u all might think.. why he needs only that college.. I too asked the same..As i have told u already.. he had a brother who was doing MBBS in the same campus.. My friend used to attend the college function during puc-2.. and he was crazy of the way life is lived in medical college.. and he knows he wont get MBBS ,,Not even in dreams..so the best way he can have that life was to get a admission in BDS college which was in the same campus..

So its the time of result.. strange but true.. this time my friend had scored well more than what I have ever thought.. remember ,he had got 8 marks once in PUC 1st.. so how much u expect him to score in PUC-2.. 50? 60? 70? 80?.. u r joking right.. how can he jump from 8 to 80..

but let me tell u.. its not 80.. its 87..huh.. my god.. strange but true.. last time he was mercy passed in other subject.. this time he had score all above 80.. I know its not that good.. but how many of u have really met such person ? I am glad I did..

Told u already, Failure is like a stain .. If a guy scores more than just passing marks after a past record of failure,, people don't believe it so ealiy. They started saying ,he must have copied.. but this time my friend was not even bothered aboutwhat others say.. Why??

Because he had those 6 true friends, who know its was his own effort

Hmmm.. Let me tell u.. Just passing a puc with 85 percent does not prove much right??

So keep reading.why?. Its me whose in the picture now.. Do read my next blog..

To be continued[:)] soon

Failure is the Stepping Stone For Success- PART- 2..The Unsaid

So.. Friends .I hope its the time to continue my earlier blog,but please make sure that you read part one before reading this one. In my last blog I told you till the day when my friend got to know that he failed in PUC-1st. So let me continue it from there.

It took him 10 days to get out of whats called post exam depression. You know I sometimes wonder, the best gift of a child is that he can forget bad things easily ,but as u grow older, its damn difficult..isn't it.

Watching his brother getting 1st rank in a medical field , must have made my friends life difficult to adjust.It was after 20 days when my friend came out of his house. People try to wonder how can a person starts living silence , who once never used to love talking..

Somehow my friend tried to recollect the lost courage from deeps inside his gut.. Made an attempt to go to college, hoping to find the way to get out from this whats called failure. But life did not have much in its store except a chance of 2nd attempt after one year..

When u get busy in life , you wonder how the time moves so fast,, and on the other side clock stops ticking when u have absolutely nothing to do.Even after one month life was totally dry for him,, wondering what to do.Poor fellow. How can he even read from the start of the year for just one subject of PUC.


Life is not that bad..You will find all kind people no matter where you stand , may be , there were still some friends who used to be as bad he was. One thing what he realized at this moment , life never leaves empty. .U r never alone.

It was the day when he cried for almost 8 hours when he was asked for the reason of being a failure, sitting in a corner, surrounded by around 12 of his relatives, making fun, laughing on him.. insulting him in front of his parents.. Hmm..May be they must have though Habits or some girl as a reason for failure..

Anyway one months were already over.

His friend used to work in STD phone booth.. so this friend of mine started helping out his friend.As the time passed he realized that, getting himself busy in some work is the best way to forget bad things.. so he started looking for the jobs. and one day he thought of being a computer operator too.. but somehow its did not work out.,,

So he used to sit in the STD booth without any pay, while returning home,, he used to meet many , Everybody used to ask him about the result,, You know ,saying the truth is always not that easy.He finally found a a way out ,although it not good to lie but that what looked best at this time.. telling each person only one thing,, "I just entered PUC-1st and My exam is in NEXT MARCH". This is how he has kept his life ticking for one year.

How can a person get sleep when does a absolutely nothing.Seeing the son worried about future, his mother used to apply whats called NAVARATNA OIL daily once, and he says,,, it really does not provide relief from tension as they show it on TV[;)]

So now this friend of mine started thinking about doing some other courses like ITI, or joining some garage to learn repairing, even his mother once asked electric shop owner to give him a job.. my god this might have been very depressing for him.. never mind it was already 4 months ..so i guess he must have learned how to cope up with life.

One day his dad asked him , "Son why dont you join a medical shop, That will help you to learn something about medicines.. so later you can do a D-Pharmacy and open your own shop"

At first moment it was difficult to decide as he will have to say the truth to everyone while join the shop.. anyway its better to except the challenges than running from it[:)]

So he finally agreed for it. It was around 6 in evening, he went to the shop,, and as he had thought, they asked him,, "why u want to join here?and what about you college?"

May be this was not that tough to answer as they were totally new to him..

Hey .I forgot to mention one thing.. This medical shop where my friends used to work was situated just beside his college. So its obvious that he will see his many friends passing by.

It was 6 months from that failure ..He started learning things so fast and owner stated admiring his work.. In free time he used to work in the electric shop too.

May be it gave him some moment of Joy but it was definitely not that easy... Hiding behind the refrigerator whenever his friends or relatives used to come to take the medicines, carrying medicines on cycle in front of his college while going to a primary health center where the head used to be his brother classmates mother..

It was depressing to see his friends walking in front of shop , watching them, enjoying the second puc, and he living life alone , sweeping the floor, cleaning the glasses, arranging the medicines..!! yup this is really bad

Anyway that was his world now.. Till then the owner started giving him a salary of 600 rupees per month.. wow..

Its almost 8 months.. In another 4 months he needs to give the 2nd attempt for the subject of maths.

His brother and his dad started wondering about his life now.. Joined a tuition Touching the books after 8 months was bit new to him.. But life was not the same.. This time surprisingly the boy started solving problems so easily that the teacher started wondering how can this friend of mine fail in maths?

Anyway life must have been very kind to him.. he used to read around 6 hours a day for next 3 months..The exam was announced.. It was nice to enter the college campus again after 12 months ,, after everything what he did.. but he was afraid too, as if something goes wrong then life wont be the same again.

Sitting in the exam hall, seeing the his professors looking curious at him, somehow managed to solve most of the questions. The exam was finally over.He returned home.. Convincing the parents that he wrote papers far better than the earlier one was bit difficult..

It was already 15 days after exam when he went to the a maths teacher to ask about his result..and managed to just find , the result will be out in 10 days.

so it was the result day...and guess what.. He cleared[:)] with respectable 70 marks.. yup i know it might look less, but from 8 to 70.. i guess this friend of mine needs salute.

Wait Wait,, the story is not yet over friends..just passing puc 1st wont help u isn't it.. People generally fail is PUC-2 as it the biggest exam of once life.. So the guy who failed in PUC-1 ,how can u expect him to pass 2nd puc..

Will be continued[:)]

Failure is the Stepping Stone For Success- PART- 1..The day before the silence

Hi.. Friends.. Before sailing through my new blog, let me request you one things.. This is quite a big story.. So to understand the depth you need to read till the end.. I hope you have time for it[:)]

"Failure is the Stepping Stone For Success".. Huh..I know you have said it so many times. Isn't it?

But there is a difference between saying and experiencing it.. Right?

I know one such person who knows what those 7 words mean to him.It took 6 long years to prove it. And believe me , when I heard his life story,, I can say.. Life is not that bad as we all think..

So this is me writing a blog on once such persons life[:)].

He was an average boy, with average IQ,, was happy with the way life was leading him..May be he never thought that once in future he would have to face worst days filled with whats called Failure.

Reading in an Kannada medium school, trying to figure out how to pronounce the those English words.. somehow managed to get 62 percent in SSLC.. May be he never understood the importance of study at that time..

You know, when you place a dark colour beside a bright one, the dark seems more darker. I guess my friends life was bit similar to it.. He too had one brother who has always excelled, no matter what he did.. Life is bit tough when parents start expecting the same from this guy too.

After passing SSLC, with a wish of doing science, he applied to one of the best college in his town.. But the taste of rejection of his application was bit bitter as it was new to him , this was the first day when he realized that 62% is not such a good score, although till then he was happy for passing with a first class..

Parents always want to give the best to their children.. This friend of mine had a bit luck, as the parent were really caring and and as you already know, he had one intelligent brother who had a good name in the same college .. Because of this ,my friend somehow managed to get a seat in that reputed college after getting the application rejected three times.

Although you can place a stone between diamonds but u cant really make it shine..This is exactly how the life of my friend was going on. He had seen many extraordinary students around him, wondering how can they solve the problems so easily..

Although he had many friends,, but they too were no different from him. It was the first internal, ENGLISH subject.. That was the first time when he met what's called failure. Seeing his dad depressed and wondering how he did not scold much, just letting him go by giving him a simple advise .. Son.. Put more efforts

As days passed by , exams after exams.. somehow managed to read a bit, managed to understand what exactly those subject mean..My god, it was difficult for him.

I guess he was not serious at that time., spending most of the time on computer games,, and the new thing called Yahoo messenger, roaming with his friends who too were struggling with studies,. may be he had tried but he was not that intelligent to the subject of science.. So I guess he should have done arts or commerce

He says, It was 10 days before exam when he actually came to know the date of Final PUC(11th) First exam.

Huh.. When he said this to me, I thought, how can a college waste a seat for a guy who does not even bothered about the exams dates.

Anyway there is a always a reason for everything which happens in the life. So i continued listening to his story,,

It was the exam day when he somehow managed to write something, he had never imagined that he need to to spend some tough days ahead.

It was the result day , his parents waiting in home to hear the word I CLEARED..I hope he mmust have thoght the same. But when he looked at the notice board !!Checked his name on the first class list,, huh,, I wondered how can he expect to score a first class when actually never bothered about the exam dates??

Next was the pass class,, He searched from top to bottom for his name, which he found missing in the both list..

Now this confirmed the biggest fear .. He had failed in PUC-1st

Came home , somehow managed to control his cry.. watching his mom waiting near gate,, may be she was knowing this was going to happen... Without scolding him a word,, they somehow tried to stop him from crying .. told him to take rest.

Its 6 years from that result day .He showed me PUC-1st marks card.I was shocked to hear his scores.. Although when I looked at his marks card , I figured out , he had been mercy passed in all subject except one. Maths.

Now you must be thinking!! why only Maths?.. I too asked the same..You need to score at least 30 out of 100 so that they can put 5 marks extra to pass you somehow!!


But this friend of mine scored much much lower than what I ever thought... ha ha..8 in maths.. Yup.. you are right ..Its out of 100

HMMm.. This story is much interesting and needs another 2 blogs to complete.. Let me continue it in my next blog..

WILL BE CONTINUED.. SOON